Dear teenage girl,
Can I tell you a secret?
You are absolutely drop-dead gorgeous. I bet a lot of older people tell you that. I bet that you shrug it off and reason it away because they’re old and they don’t understand what boys like these days. They don’t get it do they?
Can I tell you another secret?
They do get it. They were a teenage once and all the people they went to church with or any stranger their mom struck a conversation with at Walmart told them the exact same thing. And you know what they did? They shrugged it off and assumed the people that thought they were beautiful didn’t know what they were talking about because, “they don’t know what boys like these days.” And you know why they are telling you this every chance they get?
Because, like you, they didn’t believe those wonderful people in their lives and believed all the lies about what a real girls should look like, what real girls should do, and what real girls shouldn’t do. And they followed the “rules” disguised as truth and did anything to look the way “real girls” should look, did whatever “real girls” should do, and didn’t do whatever “real girls” shouldn’t do. If they were sitting here writing this to you, do you know what they would tell you?
They were miserable.
And they hated themselves.
Then they learned to love themselves. They learned to love the way their belly pooched out after they ate too much of their favorite meal. They learned to love the way their hair looked after a really long, really good nap. They learned to love the way their face looked when it wasn’t hidden by makeup. They learned to love their body and love themselves. And why wouldn’t they? They were beautiful, each in their own way.
Can I tell you another secret? Do you want to know how beautiful you are?
“You’re beautiful from head to toe, my dear love,
beautiful beyond compare, absolutely flawless.”
Sweet girl, that came from the Bible. That is Song of Solomon 4:7 (The Message) and that my beautiful friend, is how the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, Alpha and Omega, Beginning and the End, Lion of Judah, the Creator of all things feels about you and what He thinks when He looks at you.
Randy Alcorn once said (and I am paraphrasing) “Jesus didn’t want to imagine spending eternity without you so He went to hell for three days so He wouldn’t have to.”
Can you wrap your head around that? Jesus. The most powerful person ever to put their foot in this dirt called Earth, thought facing hell and the worst kind of torment ever even imagined forthree would be better than spending eternity without you. Now THAT is love.
So let’s think about it this way: Jesus made you and designed every aspect of your body. (Psalm 139, read it. It’s life-changing) Jesus also conquered death, hell, and the grave to have you forever. Jesus inspired Solomon to write Song of Solomon so that you could know how He felt about you. Jesus died so He wouldn’t live without you.
I think if one person was willing to do all of that (and so much more!) for you, then that must mean you are pretty special and pretty awesome just the way you are.
Sweet girl, the King of the Universe loves you with a love so wide and so deep that goes on and on forever and there’s no way we could measure it. Love Him back and once you do you will find all the love you will ever need, all the pleasure you could ever find, and all the joy you could ever feel. And then all of a sudden, it won’t matter what boys like these days. It won’t matter what a “real girl” does, what a “real girl” doesn’t do, and what a “real girl” looks like. All that will matter is loving and serving the God and Creator that couldn’t imagine life without you.
He loves you, darling.
So, can I tell you a secret?
You are absolutely drop-dead gorgeous.
All my love and endless prayers,